What Started Me Thinking

  • "The best way to cheer yourself is to try to cheer somebody else up." Mark Twain
  • “There is no duty we so much underrate as the duty of being happy.” Robert Louis Stevenson
  • "Martha, Martha, thou art careful and troubled about many things: But one thing is needful: and Mary hath chosen that good part, which shall not be taken away from her." Luke 10:41-42
  • “Imaginary evil is romantic and varied; real evil is gloomy, monotonous, barren, boring. Imaginary good is boring; real good is always new, marvelous, intoxicating.” Simone Weil
  • “What a wonderful life I’ve had! I only wish I’d realized it sooner.” Colette
  • “It is easy to be heavy: hard to be light.” G. K. Chesterton
  • “A man’s first care should be to avoid the reproaches of his own heart.” Joseph Addison
  • “Best is good. Better is best.” Lisa Grunwald
  • “Order is Heaven’s first law.” Alexander Pope

Happiness Theories I Reject

  • Flaubert: "To be stupid, and selfish, and to have good health are the three requirements for happiness; though if stupidity is lacking, the others are useless."
  • Vauvenargues: “There are men who are happy without knowing it.”
  • Eric Hoffer: “The search for happiness is one of the chief sources of unhappiness.”
  • Sartre: "Hell is other people."
  • Willa Cather: “One cannot divine nor forecast the conditions that will make happiness; one only stumbles upon them…”
  • Alexander Smith: “We are never happy; we can only remember that we were so once.”
  • John Stuart Mill: “Ask yourself whether you are happy, and you cease to be so.”

For no reason at all, I did a little research on koans.

Each month of the Happiness Project has a different focus; March is Work and Leisure month.

As part of this, I’ve been keeping an “interest journal,” where I note topics that particularly intrigue me—because I’ve realized that I often ignore my interests, or try to make myself interested in subjects I think should interest me. And I’m pushing myself to follow up.

So when I recently became interested in Zen koans, I let myself poke around on the internet and read Miura and Sasaki’s Zen Dust: The History of the Koan.

Zen Buddhist monks meditate on koans, or teaching riddles, as a way to abandon dependence on reason in their pursuit of enlightenment. The most famous: “Two hands clap and there is a sound. What is the sound of one hand?” Here are a few of my favorites:

Two monks were arguing about a flag. One said, “The flag is moving.” The other said, “The wind is moving.” The sixth patriarch happened to pass by. He said, “Not the wind, not the flag, mind is moving.”

Getsuan said to his students, “Keichu, the first wheel-maker in China, made two wheels having fifty spokes each. Suppose you took a wheel and removed the nave uniting the spokes. What would become of the wheel? If Keichu had done so, could he be called the master wheel-maker?"

Wikipedia has an entry on hacker koans—hilarious.

I realized that I’ve collected lines that work like koans for me:

Robert Frost: “The best way out is always through.”

Francis Bacon/Heraclitus: “Dry light is ever the best.” 

Matthew 6:21: “For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.”

G. K. Chesterton:  “It is easy to be heavy: hard to be light.”

Boswell, Life of Johnson: “He who would bring home the wealth of the Indies must carry the wealth of the Indies with him.” 


Comments

Thank you for sharing your personal koans. I think they'll work for me too. I especially like "the best way out is always through". I'll remember that one when I'm faced with particularly difficult challenges.

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