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Every Wednesday is Tip Day.

Secrets of Adulthood.

  • The best reading is re-reading.
  • Outer order contributes to inner calm.
  • The opposite of a great truth is also true.
  • You manage what you measure.
  • By doing a little bit each day, you can get a lot accomplished.
  • People don’t notice your mistakes and flaws as much as you think.
  • It's nice to have plenty of money.
  • Most decisions don't require extensive research.
  • Try not to let yourself get too hungry.
  • Even if you think they're fake, it's nice to celebrate Mother's Day and Father's Day.
  • If you can't find something, clean up.
  • The days are long, but the years are short.
  • Someplace, keep an empty shelf.
  • Turning the computer on and off a few times often fixes a glitch.
  • It's okay to ask for help.
  • You can choose what you do; you can't choose what you LIKE to do.
  • Happiness doesn't always make you feel happy.
  • What you do EVERY DAY matters more than what you do ONCE IN A WHILE.
  • You don't have to be good at everything.
  • Soap and water removes most stains.
  • It's important to be nice to EVERYONE.
  • You know as much as most people.
  • Over-the-counter medicines are very effective.
  • Eat better, eat less, exercise more.
  • What's fun for other people may not be fun for you--and vice versa.
  • People actually prefer that you buy wedding gifts off their registry.
  • Houseplants and photo albums are a lot of trouble.
  • If you're not failing, you're not trying hard enough.
  • No deposit, no return.

Happiness theories I reject.

  • Flaubert: "To be stupid, and selfish, and to have good health are the three requirements for happiness; though if stupidity is lacking, the others are useless."
  • Vauvenargues: “There are men who are happy without knowing it.”
  • Eric Hoffer: “The search for happiness is one of the chief sources of unhappiness.”
  • Sartre: "Hell is other people."
  • Willa Cather: “One cannot divine nor forecast the conditions that will make happiness; one only stumbles upon them…”
  • Alexander Smith: “We are never happy; we can only remember that we were so once.”
  • John Stuart Mill: “Ask yourself whether you are happy, and you cease to be so.”
  • G.K. Chesterton: “Happiness is a mystery, like religion, and should never be rationalised.”
  • Solon: “Let no man be called happy before his death. Till then, he is not happy, only lucky.”

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This Wednesday: Tips...to clear clutter.

Every Wednesday is Tip Day.

This Wednesday:  Tips...to clear clutter.

About an article of clothing, ask yourself:

n      Does it fit?

n      Do you actually wear it?

n      Do you love it or, if not, is it truly useful?

n      Even if you love it, is it in such bad shape that you ought to get rid of it? 

n      How many fungible items do you own?  If you have five pairs of khaki pants, will you ever wear your two least favorite pairs? How many t-shirts can one person wear?

n      Do you worry that it’s out of date? If you think it might be, it probably is.

n      Can it only be worn in a limited way? Like a shirt that’s stained so it can only be worn under a sweater.

n      Does it fill a need that no longer exists? This can be hard to admit, so press yourself.

n      Get rid of an item of clothing if you describe it by saying, “I would wear that,” or “I have worn that.” Those phrases mean that you don’t wear it.

n      If you’re saving clothes for sentimental reasons, or to hand down to someone else, or to wear to a costume or theme party, store them away from your active closet. And be choosy; only save things that really deserve it.

About papers, ask youself:

n      Do you actually need this piece of paper or receipt? What specific use does it serve?

n      Have you ever used it?

n      How easy would it be to replace it if you needed it?

n      It is something that will quickly become dated—like travel information?

n      What’s the consequence of not having it if you do need it?

n      Was it once necessary, but now related to a part of your life that’s over?

n      How long has it been since you looked at it?

Comments

Another good idea re: clothes one wants to keep for sentimental reasons. Take a photo.

Also, I find that if I have a person in mind to give clothes to -- someone who will appreciate and wear them -- I'm much more likely to part with any given item. So my advice? Find someone who needs your stuff!

I always tell my clients that anything they own but aren't using is effectively "dead". It's dead energy, it's dead, unrealized value. However, by donating it (or selling it) they are literally giving it a new life and contributing to someone else's life at the same time. ~Monica

I love your list. And Monica and Elizabeth's comments are great, too. to add my 2 cents, I also ask, if I don't wear this and it sits in storage, how long will take till the elastic is bad, or moths eat it, or it turns yellow and stiff. Honestly, clothes literally deteriorate when not used. I think that's where the "dead" energy comes from. The rotting. So then I say, what's better? Let it rot? Or let someone else possibly actually use it? Giving it away to someone or to charity always wins. : )

Thanks for a most informative site.

I've just posted it on my links page.

It'll be very useful for my readers.

Keep up the great work!

Cedar

I am just starting the "clean RV" project....too much stuff. Just got back from a feng shui meeting and it was there that I got inspired...the hardest part is starting and I realize how much of my high energy is being blocked by having 75 pair of shoes and 93 skirts etc. Thank you for this plethra of info..I'm diving in and someone is going to be happy with lots of size 2 clothing!!!

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  • "Whoever is happy will make others happy, too." Mark Twain.
  • “There is no duty we so much underrate as the duty of being happy.” Robert Louis Stevenson
  • "Martha, Martha, thou art careful and troubled about many things: But one thing is needful: and Mary hath chosen that good part, which shall not be taken away from her." Luke 10:41-42
  • “Imaginary evil is romantic and varied; real evil is gloomy, monotonous, barren, boring. Imaginary good is boring; real good is always new, marvelous, intoxicating.” Simone Weil
  • “What a wonderful life I’ve had! I only wish I’d realized it sooner.” Colette
  • “It is easy to be heavy: hard to be light.” G. K. Chesterton
  • “A man’s first care should be to avoid the reproaches of his own heart.” Joseph Addison
  • “For the love of God and my Sisters (so charitable toward me) I take care to appear happy and especially to be so.” St. Therese
  • “Best is good. Better is best.” Lisa Grunwald
  • “All severity that does not tend to increase good, or prevent evil, is idle.” Samuel Johnson
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  • “Order is Heaven’s first law.” Alexander Pope
  • “How slight and insignificant is the thing which casts down or restores a mind greedy for praise.” Horace

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