What Started Me Thinking

  • "Whoever is happy will make others happy, too." Mark Twain.
  • “There is no duty we so much underrate as the duty of being happy.” Robert Louis Stevenson
  • "Martha, Martha, thou art careful and troubled about many things: But one thing is needful: and Mary hath chosen that good part, which shall not be taken away from her." Luke 10:41-42
  • “Imaginary evil is romantic and varied; real evil is gloomy, monotonous, barren, boring. Imaginary good is boring; real good is always new, marvelous, intoxicating.” Simone Weil
  • “What a wonderful life I’ve had! I only wish I’d realized it sooner.” Colette
  • “It is easy to be heavy: hard to be light.” G. K. Chesterton
  • “A man’s first care should be to avoid the reproaches of his own heart.” Joseph Addison
  • “Best is good. Better is best.” Lisa Grunwald
  • “Order is Heaven’s first law.” Alexander Pope

Happiness Theories I Reject

  • Flaubert: "To be stupid, and selfish, and to have good health are the three requirements for happiness; though if stupidity is lacking, the others are useless."
  • Vauvenargues: “There are men who are happy without knowing it.”
  • Eric Hoffer: “The search for happiness is one of the chief sources of unhappiness.”
  • Sartre: "Hell is other people."
  • Willa Cather: “One cannot divine nor forecast the conditions that will make happiness; one only stumbles upon them…”
  • Alexander Smith: “We are never happy; we can only remember that we were so once.”
  • John Stuart Mill: “Ask yourself whether you are happy, and you cease to be so.”

More on clutter: demoting and archiving.

A friend thoughtfully set up lunch so I could meet her friends Jesse Garza and Joe Lupo. They have a consulting business called “Visual Therapy” to help clients edit their closets and buy clothes that suit them. It was a fabulous lunch—not often do I discover people who want to discuss the finer points of closet-clearing by the hour.

It’s times like this that make me realize, once again, how lucky I am to be living in New York. Lifestyle consultants! These guys have appeared on Oprah! And I had lunch with them—and they even gave me a copy of their new book.

Nothing to Wear has some great clutter-clearing suggestions I haven’t seen elsewhere. For example, if a beloved item is still flattering but not in great condition, you “demote” it to more casual use. Inspired, I “demoted” my (somewhat tired) favorite green sweater from go-out-to-dinner status to everyday status.

Most clutter-clearing advice urges against keeping clothes for sentimental reasons, but in my experience, that’s not realistic. People cling to certain items. Nothing to Wear says that it’s fine to “archive” clothes, but that those clothes should be stored outside your active closet. One thing I’ve noticed when helping friends clear their closets is that when they consciously decide to permit themselves to archive some clothes, they’re often able to cut down the amount they want to keep.

Now I know people may think it's a bit frivolous to spend so much energy analyzing and fighting clutter, but although it sounds like a magazine-cover slogan, it's true: clear your clutter, clear your mind.

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Gretchen RubinGretchen Rubin is a best-selling writer whose new book, The Happiness Project, is an account of the year she spent test-driving studies and theories about how to be happier. On this blog, she shares her insights to help you create your own happiness project.


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