My Experiments in the Practice of Everyday Life

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Why I refuse to learn about feng shui.

Judging from the stacks of books on the topic, apparently a lot of people turn to feng shui to tame their clutter. A few years ago, my sister, a TV writer, told me that everyone in L.A. was reading the feng shui book, Move Your Stuff, Change Your Life.

She read it too, and called me in a dark mood.

“The book depressed me,” she said. “I found out that my toilet is in my prosperity corner, which means I’m flushing money away.”

“So what are you going to do?”

“Nothing. The book says to put mirrors all around the room—but I thought, do I believe any of this? No. So who wants to deal with it?”

But even though she dismissed it, I could tell it had bothered her to read that she was creating bad luck for herself.

That’s the problem with feng shui. I doubt that the casual, read-one-book Western layman follower of feng shui really believes in it (that putting a bell in the “Helpful People” area of your house will get your request heard, for example). But why undertake major changes to meet feng shui’s mystical requirements for the flow of ch’i if you don’t really believe in it?

It’s true that the mindfulness of applying feng shui principles can have a good effect. Whenever people pay attention and act, they usually bring about a positive change, plus the mere fact they’ve taken any action will make them feel better. Also, feng shui encompasses some good common-sense principles: identify areas of your life you want to improve, get rid of photos that remind you of hard times, remove withering plants.

And, in full disclosure, my sister’s writing partner also had a toilet in her prosperity corner, and she did take action. She tied a red ribbon around the pipes to stop the prosperity from draining away and introduced prosperity colors (purple, gold, red) by replacing a shower curtain—changes made not so much because she believed in the theory of feng shui, but because they helped her focus her mind on her goals. After she made these changes, she maintains, she started making enough money to buy a house where the toilet wasn’t in the prosperity corner.

Maybe it works. But to me, dabbling in feng shui seems like just another source of anxiety, and putting a fishbowl opposite your bed seems like a busywork distraction from the work of taking real steps that could bring fortunate change.

  • http://lifecoachesblog.com Alvin

    That’s interesting! Here in the east feng shui is commonly regarded as part of our lives, it’s so casually spoken.
    Granted, a lot of the principles just seem like good design, but you hear lots of stories, of people’s fortunes shifting and changing just from changing their feng shui.

  • http://jodiverse.com Jodi

    Living in Manhattan in a studio apartment with odd window placement and a layout that doesn’t present very many options makes it near impossible to adhere to feng shui — or to apply/implement it in the first place. I mean, my bed has to go in one spot here, and I really have no room LITERALLY to ensure that its footboard-side to face east or west or whatever direction they’re supposed to face to bring me the best of luck. :o )
    P.S. Yes, I’m commenting on an old post, but that’s because I was just introduced to your site by a friend and am now reading EVERYTHING on it and feel like commenting. Hope you don’t mind. ;-)

  • http://jodiverse.com Jodi

    P.S. I apologize for the awkwardness of that comment. I should’ve proofread first. Oh well. Carry on.
    P.P.S. LOVE the site!

  • Nanceen

    Comment on the different clothing sizes. I was a yo-yo weight person for years until I realized a few things. You need a certain amount of food/calories/carbs per day for your normal weight. No more, no less. But I just cant count calories or carbs or anything. It makes me crazy. Here are the only rules I was able to follow. Eat when hungry, stop when feeling satiated. Keep trying it. Eventually you will feel a “click” or a light signal from your body saying “were full now.” No food is leaving the planet. In two or three hours you get to eat again. Eat two to three meals per day, two to three items per meal and each item SHOULD NOT BE BIGGER THAN YOUR HAND LAID FLAT OR YOUR FIST. NEVER TAKE SECONDS. Simply fill a plate with three things you love. Dont fuss about what to eat. Eat what tastes good. It can be ice cream. Sooner or later you get sick of it and eat your favorite vegatable or fruit. Never eat after after your last meal. The first few days are tough but you start to feel kind of light but satisfied. Soon you find you are able to have just enough of everything that pretty much satisfies but you dont gain weight. Any longings or cravings you have are very light or bearable or easily banished with “I get to eat something great tomorrow or eat in three hours.” Did I lose? Yes about 60lbs slowly. I would like to lose 30 more but seem a little stuck BUT have remained at this weight for two years!!! Thats progress for me, keeping the same size clothes. As far as the person goes who kept all kinds of size clothes around, tell her to keep a set of the size she would love to be forever, a set of clothes she can wear now and ONE size that is too big. That is all. At age 50 I was able to toss out clothes too big. It was a great feeling. Hope this can help someone.

  • http://www.artofplacement.com feng shui

    That’s a good post.
    Feng shui brings good fortune by simply following the changes that should be made at home. If you have a lot of clutter in your life, I can bet that you also experience high levels of fatigue, and that you often feel completely void of any motivation that is needed to perform your activities on a day to day basis.

  • http://www.ucedaenglish.com/ Uceda School

    I’ve always avoided learning about it. Not for anything quite as grand as you, of course…mostly just because I don’t like it. It feels…crushingly odd to me. :/