Tips for cheering yourself up--from 1820.

Every Wednesday is Tip Day.
This Wednesday: Tips for cheering yourself up, from 1820.

In 1820, English writer Sydney Smith wrote a letter to an unhappy friend, Lady Morpeth, in which he offered her tips for cheering up. His suggestions are as sound now as they were almost 200 years ago.

“1st. Live as well as you dare.
2nd. Go into the shower-bath with a small quantity of water at a temperature low enough to give you a slight sensation of cold, 75 or 80 degrees.
3rd. Amusing books.
4th. Short views of human life—not further than dinner or tea.
5th. Be as busy as you can.
6th. See as much as you can of those friends who respect and like you.
7th. And of those acquaintances who amuse you.
8th. Make no secret of low spirits to you friends, but talk of them freely—they are always worse for dignified concealment.
9th. Attend to the effects tea and coffee produce upon you.
10th. Compare your lot with that of other people.
11th. Don’t expect too much from human life—a sorry business at the best.
12th. Avoid poetry, dramatic representations (except comedy), music, serious novels, melancholy, sentimental people, and everything likely to excite feeling or emotion, not ending in active benevolence.
13th. Do good, and endeavour to please everybody of every degree.
14th Be as much as you can in the open air without fatigue.
15th. Make the room where you commonly sit gay and pleasant.
16th. Struggle by little and little against idleness.
17th. Don’t be too severe upon yourself, or underrate yourself, but do yourself justice.
18th. Keep good blazing fires.
19th. Be firm and constant in the exercise of rational religion.
20th. Believe me, dear Lady Georgiana.”

Comments

[Poet]

Please read: Happiness is always a delusion http://www.guardian.co.uk/g2/story/0,,1823663,00.html

[Alison Tuck]

Gretchen, I adore this! So much common sense and heartfelt concern and from long ago too. If you don't mind I shall link to it from my blog. Some things just never change... (It's very romantic too isn't it?)

[trafopajka]

please go out and enjoy the sun, you've got color of long forgotten zombie.

[Randy]

Trafopajka, I'm puzzled. How does someone of such profound shallowness find their way to this blog? Oh, and please go out and enjoy Strunk and White....

[Passing Shot]

Trying to puzzle out #12 -- I can't imagine an avoidance of music or poetry leading to happiness. I guess he means, never feel "obligated" to sit through a performance or read a "serious" work ifyou're not enjoying; feel free to put the book aside and go out and play.

[Mr Angry]

Fake!

Showers did not become common until the late 1800s. And in any case plumbed in hot water was virtually unheard of in 1820; not to mention that no-one ever talked about water temperature in Fahrenheit.

There are also other suspicious things listed but I can’t be bothered to explain them.

You are all products of the American higher education system for believing this. Plz. be less gullible in the future.

And valium is the secret of happiness.

[Michael Carrier]

Gretchen,

I am so glad you are pursuing this project. I would love to discuss it with you. One of the main things I have been thinking about recently is the difference between mere physical enjoyment, and actual true soulfull happiness. Would love to catch up.

All the best!
Michael

[Gretchen Rubin]

Dear Mr. Angry,
I discovered this list by Sydney Smith in a well-known biography of Smith, written by Hesketh Pearson, "The Smith of Smiths" (1934), page 149. I believe this source is quite reliable. Perhaps that will help allay your suspicions. Best, Gretchen Rubin

[Gretchen Rubin]

Mike! I'm so glad to hear from you. I went to Stylehive but couldn't figure out how to find you, so please email me. xxx Gretchen

[Alison Tuck]

Dear Mr Angry, I'm Australian. Please be less stereotypical in future.

[Linda]

I have problems with the part re: comparing your life to others. Some people put up a good front for heartache and poverty. On the other hand, it's good to remember that your life is better than many others, for no other reason than sheer luck, and you should be grateful.

[william]

"12th. Avoid poetry, dramatic representations (except comedy), music, serious novels, melancholy, sentimental people, and everything likely to excite feeling or emotion, not ending in active benevolence."

This has to be bad advice. It seems calculated to lead to a shallow happiness but not to a rich wisdom. Nevertheless, it seems to be common advice: one of the personal development bloggers that I otherwise most admire, Steve Pavlina, said a similar thing recently (http://www.stevepavlina.com/articles/cultivating-burning-desire.htm):

"First, avoid watching TV news -- it's overwhelmingly negative. [...] If you like to watch movies, then watch movies that are full of positive energy, such as light-hearted comedies and stories of triumph over adversity. Avoid dark, tragic movies that leave you feeling empty afterwards. Dump the horror books, and replace them with humor books."

I think the horror books advice may be good. But it can't be right not to be able to watch Breaking the Waves.

[johnie]

(:

[Self Help]

In addition to the above-mentioned tips I would like to add one more tip for happiness, The 80/20 Principles.

Too much to do, and too little time… It’s the universal challenge of the modern age, isn’t it?

20% of thieves account for 80% of the value of all crime
20% of drivers cause 80% of all car accidents
20% of any community’s population utilizes 80% of its resources

And if you look at your own personal life, you’ll find that about:

20% of the time you spend at work accounts for 80% of what you achieve
20% of your clothes are worn 80% of the time
20% of your home’s carpeting receives 80% of the wear

Well, the real power of the 80/20 Principle — the secret to using it as a tool for massive life transformation — lies in finding, focusing on, and exploiting the most important 20% of your resources in every situation in your life.

[trafopajka]

Randy: Sorry but look at her color, she really needs the Sun. BTW, What's wrong with the Sun?

And sorry, I don't know Strunk and White, I never listened to country'n'western or what kind of music does this duo play.

[eternity]

would like to quote from norman vincent peale here - "expect little, give much, live simple".

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I've just been letting everything wash over me recently. So it goes. What can I say?

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I just don't have much to say right now, but I guess it doesn't bother me. Basically nothing seems worth thinking about. Nothing notable happening these days. Shrug. Not that it matters. My mind is like a void. I've basically been doing nothing , not that it matters. More or less nothing going on. I guess it doesn't bother me. Not much on my mind.

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