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My Twelve Commandments

  • 1. Be Gretchen.
  • 2. Let it go.
  • 3. Act as I would feel.
  • 4. Do it now.
  • 5. Be polite and be fair.
  • 6. Enjoy the process.
  • 7. Spend out.
  • 8. Identify the problem.
  • 9. Lighten up.
  • 10. Do what ought to be done.
  • 11. No calculation.
  • 12. There is only love.

If you'd like a copy of my resolutions chart

  • Just drop me an email. The first part is grubin (then that familiar symbol). The second part is gretchenrubin (then a period, then a com). Sorry to be convoluted--because of spam.

Every Wednesday is Tip Day.

Secrets of Adulthood.

  • By doing a little bit each day, you can get a lot accomplished.
  • People don’t notice your mistakes and flaws as much as you think.
  • It's nice to have plenty of money.
  • Most decisions don't require extensive research.
  • Try not to let yourself get too hungry.
  • Even if you think they are fake holidays, it's nice to celebrate Mother's Day and Father's Day.
  • If you can't find something, clean up.
  • The days are long, but the years are short.
  • Someplace, keep an empty shelf.
  • Turning the computer on and off a few times often fixes a glitch.
  • It's okay to ask for help.
  • You can choose what you do; you can't choose what you LIKE to do.
  • Happiness doesn't always make you feel happy.
  • What you do EVERY DAY matters more than what you do ONCE IN A WHILE.
  • You don't have to be good at everything.
  • Soap and water removes most stains.
  • It's important to be nice to EVERYONE.
  • You know as much as most people.
  • Over-the-counter medicines are very effective.
  • Eat better, eat less, exercise more.
  • What's fun for other people may not be fun for you--and vice versa.
  • People actually prefer that you buy wedding gifts off their registry.
  • Houseplants and photo albums are a lot of trouble.
  • If you're not failing, you're not trying hard enough.
  • No deposit, no return.

Month-by-month goals for the Happiness Project.

  • December: The way of perfection.
  • November: Take the extra step.
  • October: Try hypnosis.
  • September: Write a novel.
  • August: Contemplate the heavens.
  • July: Buy a white t-shirt; throw away a white t-shirt.
  • June: Eat a peach.
  • May: Laugh out loud.
  • April: Remember birthdays.
  • March: Start a blog.
  • February: Sing in the morning.
  • January: Clear my closets.

My areas of focus for the Happiness Project

  • 1. Order
  • 2. Marriage and Family
  • 3. Work and Leisure
  • 4. Friends
  • 5. Conduct of Life--Exterior
    (loving-kindness, the duty to be happy, etc.)
  • 6. Conduct of Life--Interior
    (accept myself, live in the moment, etc.)

Happiness theories I reject.

  • Vauvenargues: “There are men who are happy without knowing it.”
  • Eric Hoffer: “The search for happiness is one of the chief sources of unhappiness.”
  • Sartre: "Hell is other people."
  • Willa Cather: “One cannot divine nor forecast the conditions that will make happiness; one only stumbles upon them…”
  • Alexander Smith: “We are never happy; we can only remember that we were so once.”
  • John Stuart Mill: “Ask yourself whether you are happy, and you cease to be so.”
  • G.K. Chesterton: “Happiness is a mystery, like religion, and should never be rationalised.”
  • Solon: “Let no man be called happy before his death. Till then, he is not happy, only lucky.”

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This Wednesday: Tips for packing I learned the hard way.

Every Wednesday is Tip Day.
This Wednesday...Tips for packing.

It's been a long time since I've packed to travel outside the U.S. -- or really, packed to go anywhere except Kansas City, where I can borrow anything I forget to bring. Here are some lessons I learned the hard way.

1. Don't assume that you couldn't possibly forget to pack an essential item -- like socks.

2. Always bring a full bottle of Advil.

3. If you have a long flight, have breath mints handy.

4. If you bring an electrical converter, check to see whether it can accept three-pronged as well as two-pronged appliances. Obviously, the converter will do you no good if you can't plug your three-pronged computer cord into its two-pronged base.

5. Squirrel away some snacks in your luggage.

6. Remember to bring your phone charger.

7. Bring far too many books, both on the plane and in your suitcase. You may run through your reading stash far more quickly than you predicted if you: a) decide you don't like a book and won't finish it, b) leave a book behind in the airport waiting lounge, c) finish a book more quickly than you anticipated, due to a delayed flight, or d) all of the above.

Comments

Gretchen, these are great tips! I blogged about a packing tool that I bought a few months ago, called the Pack-It Folder. Very cool. It allows you to pack your clothes in such a way that they won't move all over your luggage and get wrinkled in transit. ~Monica

Great ideas. How about these? Invest in a video iPod. When you get tired of reading you can listen to music, podcasts or videos. If you have a laptop and are flying a great distance, invest in a battery with a longer charge. (This may eliminate the need for an iPod.) Take stationery with you and catch up on your letter writing. "I'm writing to you from 35,000 feet headed to Austrailia..."

And of course, if you have a child in diapers, take 3 times as many as you think you'll need. Trust me.

Your blog makes me happy:-)

How about this one: roll clothes instead of folding them; they won't wrinkle. I've learned that when I travel I wear half of what I bring so I've started to pack essentials,instead of creating clutter with packing fashion-options-just-in-case. Remember to get your new baby his/her passport. I've just reminded myself to do that by writing this!

I've had an all-purpose packing list since I was in my early 20s. It has a subdivision for camping trips, my favorite kind of trip. Since I started substitute teaching, I made a packing list for that as well.

I travel a lot for work all over the US and long haul flights to Asia. consder packing cubes you can get at a lot of luggage stores nowadays--different sizes for different types of clothes. some hotels give out free 'disposable' slippers. snag a couple for future use since you never know how dirty the next hotel carpet will be no matter the star rating. I agree with you on breath mints. I've often wanted to offer some to neighbors. haha... lastly, have a small zippered pouch for all you 'essentials' like breath mints, ipod, ear plugs, and advil, etc., so they're handy and fit in the seat pocket. keep you feet area clear of bags to stretch your legs more.

I keep a list for going to a particular place I go to twice a year. I also have a little notebook for all info I need for that trip. And I keep some things (eg travel size toiletries) in a zip lock bag in my carry on case. I never pack without a list as I have in the past (1) arrived without any extra underwear (2) arrived without any deodorant and (3) arrived without my dress shoes. Also I've found zip-lock bags beat any cosmetic cases.

I'm jealous. Your blog gets lots of action, and yet my blog gets none. The strange part is that those that frequent my site make thousands of dollars in the stock market, which is why I started the blog. For friends and family to prosper from what I've learned and continue to find out.

You say you test drive ideas. Here's one. Go to my post on 9/20 and read the "I Will Make It As Easy As Pi" post. Test drive my idea of tracking the SEC Form 4 stock picks of the country's ultra-rich.

As you can see, I have no advertising or more than 20 readers per day, but I personally know those people, and they have been empowered by my knowledge. All I ask is that you not tell anyone but those close to you. Take care.

BxCapricorn

Here's another one -- keep your toiletries packed in a travel bag and stored in a closet. I just refill the little shampoo and body wash bottles before each trip. That way I never have to wonder if I've forgotten the above mentioned aspirin, breath mints, as well as hair clips, sewing needle, etc. I just never unpack them! I also keep my little suitcase padlocks in there so I always know where they are, and I switched to combination locks so I never have to lose the key (or worry about losing the key).

Thanks for all your tips.
Additional comment re rolling clothes instead of folding. I use a cardboard tube from gift wrap (the width of the suitcase) to roll my skirts up in. This way you never get those crease lines across the middle.
I also always have a very small ziploc with a few elastic bands, paper clips, string and a small roll of sellotape. This has come in useful time and time again.
And, of course, lots of spare ziploc bags !

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My earth-shattering happiness formula.

  • To be happier, you need to think about FEELING GOOD, FEELING BAD, and FEELING RIGHT, in an atmosphere of growth. Clunky, but it works.

My second ground-breaking insight into happiness.

  • One of the best ways to make yourself happy is to make other people happy. One of the best ways to make other people happy is to be happy yourself.

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What started me thinking.

  • "Whoever is happy will make others happy, too." Mark Twain.
  • “There is no duty we so much underrate as the duty of being happy.” Robert Louis Stevenson
  • "Martha, Martha, thou art careful and troubled about many things: But one thing is needful: and Mary hath chosen that good part, which shall not be taken away from her." Luke 10:41-42
  • “Imaginary evil is romantic and varied; real evil is gloomy, monotonous, barren, boring. Imaginary good is boring; real good is always new, marvelous, intoxicating.” Simone Weil
  • “What a wonderful life I’ve had! I only wish I’d realized it sooner.” Colette
  • “It is easy to be heavy: hard to be light.” G. K. Chesterton
  • “A man’s first care should be to avoid the reproaches of his own heart.” Joseph Addison
  • “For the love of God and my Sisters (so charitable toward me) I take care to appear happy and especially to be so.” St. Therese
  • “Best is good. Better is best.” Lisa Grunwald
  • “All severity that does not tend to increase good, or prevent evil, is idle.” Samuel Johnson
  • “I must do the work that I am best suited for…” Edward Weston daybook
  • “Order is Heaven’s first law.” Alexander Pope
  • “How slight and insignificant is the thing which casts down or restores a mind greedy for praise.” Horace

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