What Started Me Thinking

  • "The best way to cheer yourself is to try to cheer somebody else up." Mark Twain
  • “There is no duty we so much underrate as the duty of being happy.” Robert Louis Stevenson
  • "Martha, Martha, thou art careful and troubled about many things: But one thing is needful: and Mary hath chosen that good part, which shall not be taken away from her." Luke 10:41-42
  • “Imaginary evil is romantic and varied; real evil is gloomy, monotonous, barren, boring. Imaginary good is boring; real good is always new, marvelous, intoxicating.” Simone Weil
  • “What a wonderful life I’ve had! I only wish I’d realized it sooner.” Colette
  • “It is easy to be heavy: hard to be light.” G. K. Chesterton
  • “A man’s first care should be to avoid the reproaches of his own heart.” Joseph Addison
  • “Best is good. Better is best.” Lisa Grunwald
  • “Order is Heaven’s first law.” Alexander Pope

Happiness Theories I Reject

  • Flaubert: "To be stupid, and selfish, and to have good health are the three requirements for happiness; though if stupidity is lacking, the others are useless."
  • Vauvenargues: “There are men who are happy without knowing it.”
  • Eric Hoffer: “The search for happiness is one of the chief sources of unhappiness.”
  • Sartre: "Hell is other people."
  • Willa Cather: “One cannot divine nor forecast the conditions that will make happiness; one only stumbles upon them…”
  • Alexander Smith: “We are never happy; we can only remember that we were so once.”
  • John Stuart Mill: “Ask yourself whether you are happy, and you cease to be so.”

A great day for my sister! To do: spread family cheer; be a storehouse of happy memories.

HollywoodYesterday, I got the call from my sister that I’d been waiting for—yes, it happened, she and her writing partner got an order for their pilot, “Women’s Murder Club,” from 20th Century Fox, for ABC, based on a series of books by James Patterson, directed by Brett Ratner. After the pilot has been made, they’ll find out in May if the show will be picked up for a series.

Well, I’m kind of shaky on the terminology, so my description might not be exactly right, but that’s the general idea.

Zoikes! It seems like just a few weeks ago that we were having one of our periodic pep talks (we alternate months for getting and receiving the pep) and now this! It’s so exciting.

I swung into happiness-project action the minute I hung up the phone.

First, I emailed the Big Man and my in-laws to “spread family cheer.” A few years ago, I might have thought this boastful, but now I realize that family members love to hear good news. It gives everyone a lift and a feeling of participation.

Second, I tried to figure out a way to “be a storehouse of happy memories” to remind us of this day, in the future. Remembering happy times from the past is a great way to bring happiness into the present. Studies showed that depressed people have as many nice experiences as non-depressed people, but they remember them less well.

How could I memorialize this happy day? Well, I haven’t yet been able to think of a great way to make a record of it, but this making-a-pilot stage will last for a while, so I’m hoping I’ll come up with some creative solution.


Comments

Have you thought of getting pictures of the people involved, and making a collage? Or printing up a fake headline to put at the top of it? If there is some written information about it, you could attach that.

it may not seem as "permanent" or "real" as something else (though it is), but posting the news here on the blog will always remind you...! :-) best, Eric

one thing you could be to surprise big man with a congratulations gift and capture his shock & happiness on camera. i know its not something one normally does - but i am, as they keep saying, 'thinking out of the box'!!!

Ahhh, I just love the word, Zoikes; it makes me smile. This is a lovely blog and a noble project.

A this is a 'pilot' how about getting your sister and brother in law photos in a windshield of a plane - sort of like those old Spruce Goose shots! They could even go to have one done themselves.

Fun and memorable at the same time.

How about having each member of the family write a note of congratulation or well wishes or whatever and combining those into a little book - maybe just pasted into a journal/notebook? The "I always knew you'd make it big..." stories.

Verify your Comment

Previewing your Comment

This is only a preview. Your comment has not yet been posted.

Working...
Your comment could not be posted. Error type:
Your comment has been posted. Post another comment

The letters and numbers you entered did not match the image. Please try again.

As a final step before posting your comment, enter the letters and numbers you see in the image below. This prevents automated programs from posting comments.

Having trouble reading this image? View an alternate.

Working...

Post a comment

Gretchen RubinGretchen Rubin is the best-selling writer whose book, The Happiness Project, is the account of the year she spent test-driving studies and theories about how to be happier. Here, she shares her insights to help you create your own happiness project.

Now in Paperback


Buy the book
Sample Chapters Book Video
Free Audio Book Sample

Follow me

RSSHappiness Project Twitter updatesFacebook updates
Daily Email updatesMonthly Newsletter Email