What Started Me Thinking

  • "The best way to cheer yourself is to try to cheer somebody else up." Mark Twain
  • “There is no duty we so much underrate as the duty of being happy.” Robert Louis Stevenson
  • "Martha, Martha, thou art careful and troubled about many things: But one thing is needful: and Mary hath chosen that good part, which shall not be taken away from her." Luke 10:41-42
  • “Imaginary evil is romantic and varied; real evil is gloomy, monotonous, barren, boring. Imaginary good is boring; real good is always new, marvelous, intoxicating.” Simone Weil
  • “What a wonderful life I’ve had! I only wish I’d realized it sooner.” Colette
  • “It is easy to be heavy: hard to be light.” G. K. Chesterton
  • “A man’s first care should be to avoid the reproaches of his own heart.” Joseph Addison
  • “Best is good. Better is best.” Lisa Grunwald
  • “Order is Heaven’s first law.” Alexander Pope

Happiness Theories I Reject

  • Flaubert: "To be stupid, and selfish, and to have good health are the three requirements for happiness; though if stupidity is lacking, the others are useless."
  • Vauvenargues: “There are men who are happy without knowing it.”
  • Eric Hoffer: “The search for happiness is one of the chief sources of unhappiness.”
  • Sartre: "Hell is other people."
  • Willa Cather: “One cannot divine nor forecast the conditions that will make happiness; one only stumbles upon them…”
  • Alexander Smith: “We are never happy; we can only remember that we were so once.”
  • John Stuart Mill: “Ask yourself whether you are happy, and you cease to be so.”

Chain letter of the internet.

Chain_letterThere’s a sort of chain-mail blog meme going on right now, in which you disclose five little-known facts about yourself, then tag five more bloggers to keep the chain going.

It’s a bit ridiculous how pleased I am that I was tagged to be included in this. I am a blogger! I have readers!

So here are five little-known facts about me:
1. I was the worst waitress of all time. I worked at Dos Hombres restaurant in Kansas City for one summer, never did learn to tell a burrito from an enchilada on the plate. Even now, when I go back to K.C., I get hit with a wave of dread whenever I drive through that neighborhood.

2. I have a crazy passion for children’s literature, and read it all the time (ok, some people do know this). I just read Stephanie Meyer's Twilight over the weekend—fantastic!

3. The Big Man and I keep the radio turned on all night, tuned to all-news radio. This is one of those personality quirks that you only discover once you’re married to someone; we’re lucky that we both like to fall asleep to traffic-and-weather updates.

4. Until last year, I never used anything but water to wash my face. There were just too many product options, and I suspected that they were all over-hyped. As part of the Happiness Project, I decided it was time to get a real cleanser. You know what? My skin does look better.

5. I’ve been known to eat brown sugar straight from the jar.

In keeping with the chain-letter aspect of the meme, I now “tag” five more bloggers to keep the chain going.

So – tag, you’re it:

Michael Melcher
Monica Ricci
Henry Blodget
Melissa Kirsch
Will Wilkinson


And hello to Dwayne Melancon and Grigor who tagged me.


Comments

So you were my waitress at Dos Hombres! What a hoot ... I used to visit Dos Hombres frequently several years ago.

A KC resident ... State Line and 50th Street.

Dean

Gretchen, thanks... I think! :) I'll get to it.

Hey Gretchen! I'm on it.--Melissa

I still happily only use water to clean my face.

I can't help but wonder what #3 does to your subliminal mind while you are sleeping.
As for #5, sucking on sugar cubes does it for me. I thought it was a great treat when I was given the polio vaccine on sugar cubes during the mass immunization effort when I was a small child in the 1960's!

Gretchen, I wonder if you've considered listening to something besides news radio while you sleep? When I'm awake and able to consciously filter and contextualize what I hear on the news, it's rarely conducive, and often inimical, to my happiness. Having it injected into my mind without that conscious filtering sounds scary!

I have a thought that replacing the news radio with something pleasant and soothing (calm music) or even something actively positive (e.g., http://thinkrightnow.com/ ) may make a noticeable difference.

By the way, I love your blog, and am very happy to see that you're continuing it even though 2006 has ended.

One last note: Have you seen Dan Gilbert's talk "The (Misguided) Pursuit of Happiuness" at http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=-7822696446273926158 ? I highly recommend it!

Greg

Hi Gretchen:
I tagged you, too. Here's the link: http://www.pursueu.com/pursue_u/2006/12/tag_im_it.html
I thought I had emailed you to let you know about the tag, but we must have had a disconnect. Just wanted you to know that I read and recommend your blog to my readers. Glad you got tagged and have shared your fun 5 unknowns!!
Kelly

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