This Wednesday: Tips for pleasing in society.

Every Wednesday is Tip Day.
This Wednesday: Tips for pleasing in society, from 1774.

Lord Chesterfield, a British statesman and man of letters, was very preoccupied with worldly success. In his Letters, he bombards his son with advice about how to succeed in society.

Samuel Johnson remarked that these letters “teach the morals of a whore, and the manners of a dancing master.” Not exactly a rousing endorsement.

Nevertheless, I think Lord Chesterfield has some provocative insights. Here’s an assortment of his advice:

“Pleasing in company is the only way of being pleased in it yourself.”

“The very same thing may become either pleasing or offensive, by the manner of saying or doing it.”

“Even where you are sure, seem rather doubtful; represent, but do not pronounce, and if you would convince others, seem open to conviction yourself.”

“You will easily discover every man’s prevailing vanity, by observing his favourite topic of conversation; for every man talks most of what he has most a mind to be thought to excel in.”

“The sure way to excel in any thing, is only to have a close and undissipated attention while you are about it; and then you need not be half the time that otherwise you must…"

“Dress is a very foolish thing, and yet it is a very foolish thing for a man not to be well dressed.”

“Whatever is worth doing at all is worth doing well.”

I have to quibble with Chesterfield on that last observation. I’ve taken up the motto, “Anything worth doing is worth doing badly.” There’s merit to both approaches.

Comments

[kstyle]

These are delightful tips and the writing so elegant. Thanks for sharing. Something I never would have found if not for you. k

[joce]

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[teejay]

I'm gonna have to side with Johnson. Another reason why hell is other people.

[kim]

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[Marci Alboher]

Gretchen,
I am SO with you. Let's add tales of bad customer service, and harrowing flying experiences to the list of off-limits topics. The minute someone starts talking about what happened when the flight got grounded in Cleveland, I tune out. Don't they realize that if it was boring/annoying/frustrating to experience, it will likely be the same for a listener hearing it recounted?
--Marci

[Carmen Rojas Duran]

Hi Gretchen, thanks for the posting, always enlightening. Regarding the last advice you quoted from Chesterfield, it holds great inspiration . Any doable thing that we consider worth our time and effort, is also worth our best effort. In other words, being mediocre, contradicts a choice of doing anything we choose to do. Our own Choice is related to our willingness to do our best in an activity, but when we find ourselves getting by doing just the minimum we could do, I wonder if it was really our choice to engage in that activity or if we had to do it to survive, or to please others, or to try something and find out if we really like it and want to pursue it further.Personally, I take it to the next level and try to give greater meaning to my choices by being of service through my choices in the doings of everyday life, and I quote Tagore as my motto:
"I slept, and I dream t that life was joy,
I woke, and saw that life was service:
I acted, and behold, service was joy."

When we have a greater purpose, it is harder to be mediocre and not do our best. With a good measure of selflessness we can go a long way... into a better world.
Love,
Carmen

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