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Secrets of Adulthood.

  • The best reading is re-reading.
  • Outer order contributes to inner calm.
  • The opposite of a great truth is also true.
  • You manage what you measure.
  • By doing a little bit each day, you can get a lot accomplished.
  • People don’t notice your mistakes and flaws as much as you think.
  • It's nice to have plenty of money.
  • Most decisions don't require extensive research.
  • Try not to let yourself get too hungry.
  • Even if you think they're fake, it's nice to celebrate Mother's Day and Father's Day.
  • If you can't find something, clean up.
  • The days are long, but the years are short.
  • Someplace, keep an empty shelf.
  • Turning the computer on and off a few times often fixes a glitch.
  • It's okay to ask for help.
  • You can choose what you do; you can't choose what you LIKE to do.
  • Happiness doesn't always make you feel happy.
  • What you do EVERY DAY matters more than what you do ONCE IN A WHILE.
  • You don't have to be good at everything.
  • Soap and water removes most stains.
  • It's important to be nice to EVERYONE.
  • You know as much as most people.
  • Over-the-counter medicines are very effective.
  • Eat better, eat less, exercise more.
  • What's fun for other people may not be fun for you--and vice versa.
  • People actually prefer that you buy wedding gifts off their registry.
  • Houseplants and photo albums are a lot of trouble.
  • If you're not failing, you're not trying hard enough.
  • No deposit, no return.

Happiness theories I reject.

  • Flaubert: "To be stupid, and selfish, and to have good health are the three requirements for happiness; though if stupidity is lacking, the others are useless."
  • Vauvenargues: “There are men who are happy without knowing it.”
  • Eric Hoffer: “The search for happiness is one of the chief sources of unhappiness.”
  • Sartre: "Hell is other people."
  • Willa Cather: “One cannot divine nor forecast the conditions that will make happiness; one only stumbles upon them…”
  • Alexander Smith: “We are never happy; we can only remember that we were so once.”
  • John Stuart Mill: “Ask yourself whether you are happy, and you cease to be so.”
  • G.K. Chesterton: “Happiness is a mystery, like religion, and should never be rationalised.”
  • Solon: “Let no man be called happy before his death. Till then, he is not happy, only lucky.”

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Are you interested in reading about creativity?

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On the last day of every month, I post a list of happiness-related recommended reading.
A reader asked for a list on the subject of creativity, so here it is.

A note about this list: I find people’s descriptions of their own creative processes more useful than books that suggest creativity exercises, so that’s the kind of book that dominates on my list.

Each one of these books is fascinating and will be enjoyed by anyone, whether or not they're interested specifically in creativity – except the Boice and the Baty books on writing, which really do focus on the process of writing.

Books about creativity:
Bob Dylan, Chronicles
Edward Weston, The Flame of Recognition
Twyla Tharp, The Summing Up
Anthony Trollope, An Autobiography
Robert Boice, How Writers Journey to Comfort and Fluency -- although (ironically) badly written, everyone I know who has read this thinks it's a fantastic book for helping writers get writing done -- but it's bizarrely expensive, so be sure to check the price before you buy!
Scott McCloud, Understanding Comics
Chris Baty, No Plot, No Problem
Christopher Alexander et al, A Pattern Language
Edward Tufte, The Visual Display of Quantitative Information
Virginia Woolf, A Writer’s Diary

If you're interested in other lists of happiness-related recommended reading, check out this blog's right column, near the bottom, under "Happiness Library."

Comments

As much as I would like to, I don't have the time to read that much. But I have found a worthy substitute in some blogs that I find deeply inspirational like postsecret, or more recently artworkfromtheworkplace. Short stories, fast to read, but full of meaning...

Are the "writers" books useful for non-fiction writing?

Thanks for the list, I'm saving it and will look for these books, specially Virginia Wolf, I must have missed this book?!

I'm reading The creative habit by Twarp right now, it is sooo great! Also like the science of Csíkszentmihalyi's books about flow and The Leonardo Trait by Angie Dixon.

Creativity is what makes me happy!

The Boice book is extremely useful to non-fiction writers, also the Woolf -- the Baty book, less so, because it's about novel-writing.

I love Czikszentmihalyi's work (sp?). Fascinating. I LOVE Postsecret -- just bought the book they did. But I wonder -- does it strike anyone that most of the postcards have a similar approach, a similar sensibility? I wonder if the site has shaped the way people conceive the expression of their secrets...

Love the Tharp book (but..err...looks like the link is broken). So pragmatic. So Midwestern. So "get up and do it whether you feel like it or not.")

I also recommmend her interview with Terry Gross on Fresh Air.

SmithMag recently had a six-word memoir contest that made me think of PostSecret..I do think the site shapes the secret, for sure.

Hiya. I was reading a discussion the Creative Think Blog the other day about the light bulb. They suggest that the bulb as a metaphor for innovation and creativity had had its day..what you think? I suggested a colour?

Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi is pronounced 'Me-hi Chicksent-me-hiee'. Took me ages to be able to say that!

I loved Dylan's Chronicles and Tharp's Creative Habit, as well as Loori's Zen of Creativity, Rilke's Letters to a Young Poet. I also liked Beat Writers at Work, a Paris Review book.

The best books I have ever read on creativity are by the wonderous Julia Cameron. For anyone looking to spark their creativity, Julia's books, "The Artist's Way and Walking in this World" among many great other must reads.

Hi Gretchen, Thanks for the list. I was able to order the Boice book through my library, just picked it up yesterday, and I'm looking forward to reading it.

I just want to say that most of the books are wonderful and have helped me alot. Thanks Happiness Project!

It's not strictly a creativity book, but "Make It Stick" did wonders for my creativity!!

Julia Cameron has written many books about creativity. The Artist's Way is great.

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  • “A man’s first care should be to avoid the reproaches of his own heart.” Joseph Addison
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