What Started Me Thinking

  • "The best way to cheer yourself is to try to cheer somebody else up." Mark Twain
  • “There is no duty we so much underrate as the duty of being happy.” Robert Louis Stevenson
  • "Martha, Martha, thou art careful and troubled about many things: But one thing is needful: and Mary hath chosen that good part, which shall not be taken away from her." Luke 10:41-42
  • “Imaginary evil is romantic and varied; real evil is gloomy, monotonous, barren, boring. Imaginary good is boring; real good is always new, marvelous, intoxicating.” Simone Weil
  • “What a wonderful life I’ve had! I only wish I’d realized it sooner.” Colette
  • “It is easy to be heavy: hard to be light.” G. K. Chesterton
  • “A man’s first care should be to avoid the reproaches of his own heart.” Joseph Addison
  • “Best is good. Better is best.” Lisa Grunwald
  • “Order is Heaven’s first law.” Alexander Pope

Happiness Theories I Reject

  • Flaubert: "To be stupid, and selfish, and to have good health are the three requirements for happiness; though if stupidity is lacking, the others are useless."
  • Vauvenargues: “There are men who are happy without knowing it.”
  • Eric Hoffer: “The search for happiness is one of the chief sources of unhappiness.”
  • Sartre: "Hell is other people."
  • Willa Cather: “One cannot divine nor forecast the conditions that will make happiness; one only stumbles upon them…”
  • Alexander Smith: “We are never happy; we can only remember that we were so once.”
  • John Stuart Mill: “Ask yourself whether you are happy, and you cease to be so.”

What Harry Potter has in common with the Olympics, the World Cup, and American Idol.

HarrypotterI don’t follow the Olympics, the Super Bowl, the World Cup, or American Idol, so I never realized how MUCH FUN it is to be swept up in a national frenzy of anticipation.

A friend and I went to stand in line outside the Barnes and Noble at Union Square, to pick up the wristbands that would give us a place in line to buy the books tonight after 12:01. The line wrapped around the block, and we waited for two hours to get number 348.

It was a pain, but it was also a lot of fun.

I've seen people all over the city carrying copies of various Harry Potter books under their arms. I saw a hip girl with a t-shirt that read, “I solemnly swear I am up to no good.” A guy on the subway saw our Barnes and Noble schedule and asked us about the countdown party.

It's thrilling to realize that so many strangers are as excited as I am. Being a participant in this mass enthusiasm is really making me happy. The whole city seems friendlier.

Maybe I’ll start watching the Olympics.

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Via 43 Folders, I saw an interesting post made by Mike Davidson about that perennial subject, how to manage emails. His suggestion: don't write or send any email that's longer than 5 sentences. Hmmm....I'm going to give it a shot.

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Comments

This is so fun! I'm excited to be swept up in your happiness. : ).

I remember Mike's e-mail suggestion(s) as well. I've been slowly but surely moving towards more concise messages. There is of course, those several page e-mails that just need to be written :-)

Yikes, 5 lines? I'm doomed. :-)
Nice site. I followed a link and ended up here.

The problem with anticipation like this is that it can so often be disappointed. For instance, I anticipated a great performance by England in the last World Cup. What a disappointment! Any fun of anticipation was far outweighed by the depression introduced by their performance.

"Maybe I’ll start watching the Olympics." Well, as the commentator above indicated, you have to be careful if you start seeking that euphoria associated with sports. Studies have shown that people actually get physiologically depressed if the team they identify with loses. There's a real cost, and to get the highs associated with winning, you have to be a real fan, which means you can't suddenly decide you won't identify with the team if they do poorly.... Seems to me that your interest in the next Potter book is far safer.

...and I'd bet you are deeply into HP7, right this very minute...

Oh, what a joy HP7 was. It's now Monday morning, and I've read it twice. And now I can look forward to re-reading the entire series, with the end in mind. This is far, far better than the Olympics could be.

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