Why Alicia Silverstone’s “Dumbest Celeb Quote” actually gives profound insight into the nature of happiness.

I was in the physical therapist’s office the other day (see the epiphany of Back Spasm) and reading the January edition of Readers’ Digest. Drawing from VH1’s 40 Dumbest Celeb Quotes, a sidebar called “They’re Stars, Just Dim Ones” quoted Alicia Silverstone saying, “I think the film Clueless was very deep. I think it was deep in the way that it was very light. I think lightness has to come from a very deep place if it’s true lightness.”

Now, quoted like that, I admit, Alicia Silverstone sounds a little preposterous. But I think she’s quite right.

A line from the British writer G. K. Chesterton has haunted me for years, and has been one of the major influences on my Happiness Project: It is easy to be heavy; hard to be light.

It’s on the screensaver of my laptop. It’s one of my personal koans. It floats through my head several times a day. It is easy to be heavy; hard to be light.

This is one reason that I love St. Therese of Lisieux so much. She made saintliness seem so light – so effortless, so fun, so happy – that many of her fellow nuns didn’t even recognize her heroic virtue. Even now, when people discuss the style of her spiritual memoir, The Story of a Soul, they criticize her for her sweetness, and exclamation points, and her hearts-and-flowers aesthetic. They don’t understand that she was choosing (I think) to be light.

One mystery of happiness is why some people choose to be unhappy. One answer: It is easy to be heavy; hard to be light. And you don’t get credit for being light. It looks easy and effortless. No one thinks much about you or tries to accommodate you. You get taken for granted.

Same thing with a movie or a book – it seems so easy to do a light movie, with jokes and cheeriness and a happy ending. But is it easier to make people cry or to make them laugh?

Is it easier to be critical or to be enthusiastic?

Is it easier to be fretful or to be satisfied?

Is it easier to yell or to joke around?

It is easy to be heavy; hard to be light.

Zoikes, I bet that G. K. Chesterton and Alicia Silverstone have never come up in the same discussion before, ever.

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Comments

[HumanityCritic]

"It is easy to be heavy; hard to be light."

I definitely dig that quote..

[Jen Zingsheim]

Terrific post, and I agree...it's hard to be "light." Yet it is very important, especially in a work environment where a bad mood can spread quickly.

Oh, and Clueless is based on Jane Austen's Emma--for those considering knocking it! I enjoyed the film.

[Cindy]

What a concept! I think that being charming is relevant to being light. Someone who is charming is easygoing, lighthearted, and isn't very emotional. We all know how few charming people there are so it seems that being light is rather difficult and rare.

Being "light" takes more work than being heavy. For example, it's so easy to swear and yell when someone cuts you off but it's more rare when you just let it go. This post has motivated me to become more "light" and happy-go-lucky. I think it goes with one of my favorite quotes:

"Don't take life too seriously. You'll never get out of it alive."

[Shannon]

Thanks, I needed that. I was just thinking about ditching my own "happiness project" blog because I don't think my colleagues will get it. But this post reminded me that happiness is worth posting about.

[Asha {Parent Hacks}]

So true, so true. Gretchen, thank you for this -- it's an "invisible" truth few realize.

[Steve Yuen]

One of the most profound movies I know--Groundhog Day---is light and funny. Repeated viewings only make me appreciate the film-maker's craftsmanship more. Lightness' close cousin is comedy. It's appropriate to dust off the English actor's famous deathbed quote, "Dying is easy, comedy is hard."

[molly]

Not only is Clueless based on Emma, it was also directed by Amy Heckerling, who usually does a great job of making deep (but light) movies. I would say that Ms. Silverstone hit it just about right, and the geniuses at Reader's Digest should do a little research before calling other people's remarks "dumb." In this case, it was clearly easier for them to be snarky and critical than to look for something worthwhile to fill the spaces around the articles.

[HP van Duuren]

Thanks for your post,

It's funny that you mention Alicia Silverstone, because I once saw a 'framed-in' Photo of Alicia with her autograph on it, hanging on the wall of an office from somebody working at a 'Film Distribution' company, so from that day on I - sort of - followed her carreer.

Alicia also - amung other things - played in a funny movie titled: 'Blast from the past' also a 'Light' movie about an (imagined) 'Heavy' nucliar disaster. How can this possibly be 'Funny and Light?' Well you can find out for yourself by having a look at this movie.

All the Best,
HP

P.S. make sure to be - an Angel - and recoment my site for my 'Light' Daily 'Joke of the Day', 'Funny Quote of the Day' and some serious other 'Happy Stuff'.

P.S.S. Why do Angels Fly...?

Because they take themselves 'Lightly' :)

[AS12]

that is the entire premises for the book "the unbearable lightness of being" by milan kundera
the protagonist contemplates the benefits of both "heaviness" and "lightness" but ultimately arrives at the conclusion that lightness is happiness

[Jennifer]

That is great. I have often pondered the irony of that point before. I read a quote not long ago - I do not recall the author of it - that said, "Life will be infinitely easier on you if you are hard on it." (or something like that.) In other words if you discipline yourself life will be easy on you. It takes discipline to hold your tongue! It reminds me of one of my favorite quotes:

"You can blame others for you unhappiness or you can be happy."

The hard part is taking responsibility, the easy part is living the life you want.

[Flavia]

Beautiful post! :)

[Niles Gibbs]

The Chesterton quote is succinct and perfect. Optimism is a policy that needs to be maintained:

http://nilesgibbs.com/2008/02/19/optimism-is-a-policy-to-be-maintained/

Apologies if this comment is posted more than once, but it wasn't appearing. Is there a moderation queue?

[Gretchen Rubin]

Ah, the Kundera novel! I read that years ago, and hadn't thought to connect it with the Chesterton quote. I'm going to get it out and re-read it.

Groundhog Day is a terrific example of the same principle. It is really quite didactic, but the context is so comical, it doesn't feel heavy.

Using humor in difficult situations is incredibly tough -- but very effective. This is one resolution that I have really struggled to try to keep, even though it's obvious that it works. It really is hard to be light.

[Martin]

Thanks for a light hearted post about happiness. All the deep self analysis just makes me aware of problems.

Have a nice day. :)

[Dave Bennett]

Someone (Sid Caesar maybe?) said, with reference to "light" films; "Drama is easy. Comedy is hard." Whoever it was must have been on the same wavelength as Chesterton. The heavy stuff probably hits more emotional sensors harder, for everyone, but the light stuff hits different people different ways. In other words, its pretty hard to make everyone laugh (or feel good), but relatively easy to make people feel bad. Isn't that a shame!

[azureone]

Yes, Kundera...it would be wrong to say that Tomas (the protagonist) opts for lightness in the end. HP, go back and look at it again.

That said, happiness can be positive by feeling both light as a breeze or heavy as the earth that connects one to family/heritage.

In the end, it is your view of lightness (e.g. soaring or unhinged) that adds happiness to its list of attributes.

[cja]

What about the movie "The Unbearable Lightness of Being?" What does that mean? In college, I used to think it was the frustration of everyone being so superficial when life is really serious, but that was 20 years ago, and I haven't thought about it since then. I'll have to ponder this and maybe do some internet searching...

[Sanjay]

This is a nice photo her smile so sweet and her all style is very stagger she is very impress.

[ProComBoDia]

I'm with Silverstone. Does anyone remember the name of that Italo Calvino book that everyone loved a few years back? 6 something for the new millenium. That whole book (or one of the six parts, at least) was about lightness/deftness.

[Matt Metzgar]

I think of things a little different: it takes more bravery to be optimistic than pessimistic. Being "light" or optimistic is definitely a worthy state to pursue.

[Nyomi]

Insightful post. Yes, I think for many people it can be easier to be heavy than light.

[Madison (MST)]

Great thoughts. And I think you're right Alicia Silverstone and G. K. Chesterton have never been put together. Nor quite so well. And it's great to see someone else who know's of Chesterton. He's a favorite of mine too.

Being positive is no easy choice for most of us, but it is imperative for a life lived well and for a life that impresses itself upon others with its beauty.

[Bob Collier]

Clueless is amongst my Top 30 all-time favourite movies (so is Groundhog Day, as it happens) and I've watched a lot of movies in my lifetime.