So I was very interested to read Trish Ryan’s memoir, He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not: A Memoir of Finding Faith, Hope, and Happily Ever After. It’s a combo of all three kinds of memoir.
From college on, Ryan was very eager to get married. She lurched through some bad relationships, then made a disastrous marriage to a man with a vicious temper. His temper was so vicious, in fact, that when she decided to leave him, she just walked out of the house one morning. She didn’t bring anything with her, and she kept her whereabouts hidden, until she managed to get a divorce by relinquishing any claim to their marital property. Throughout this time, she was also on a spiritual quest.
When she left her marriage, she moved to Boston, and she ended up joining the Vineyard Christian Fellowship of Greater Boston. My favorite part of the memoir recounts how she embraced the church and Jesus, turned her life around, and married the perfect guy.
This memoir is fascinating, because Ryan is so honest (and a bit kooky). She talks about her longtime belief in astrology; her repeated, classic He’s Just Not That Into You relationship mistakes; her initial reservations about some aspects of the religion she slowly adopted. It’s also very funny.
Also, she accomplishes something very difficult: she writes about her faith, religion, and Jesus in a way that will resonate, I bet, not only with people of the same faith but also with a wide audience.
I’m trying to remember if I’ve ever failed to be enthralled with the story of someone’s Happiness Project. I can’t think of an example. There’s just something so engaging about reading about how people decide to change their lives, and how they go about doing it. People have such wildly different challenges, and undertake such wildly different resolutions to try to turn their lives around.
This is a very, very happy story. I have to say, I got a little teary in the wedding scene. Then I immediately went online to see if there were any pictures of Trish Ryan and her husband Steve on her author website (there are).
I like checking out the LifeTwo site. They do great round-ups of lots of interesting studies, plus there’s other fun material there.
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