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Secrets of Adulthood.

  • The best reading is re-reading.
  • Outer order contributes to inner calm.
  • The opposite of a great truth is also true.
  • You manage what you measure.
  • By doing a little bit each day, you can get a lot accomplished.
  • People don’t notice your mistakes and flaws as much as you think.
  • It's nice to have plenty of money.
  • Most decisions don't require extensive research.
  • Try not to let yourself get too hungry.
  • Even if you think they're fake, it's nice to celebrate Mother's Day and Father's Day.
  • If you can't find something, clean up.
  • The days are long, but the years are short.
  • Someplace, keep an empty shelf.
  • Turning the computer on and off a few times often fixes a glitch.
  • It's okay to ask for help.
  • You can choose what you do; you can't choose what you LIKE to do.
  • Happiness doesn't always make you feel happy.
  • What you do EVERY DAY matters more than what you do ONCE IN A WHILE.
  • You don't have to be good at everything.
  • Soap and water removes most stains.
  • It's important to be nice to EVERYONE.
  • You know as much as most people.
  • Over-the-counter medicines are very effective.
  • Eat better, eat less, exercise more.
  • What's fun for other people may not be fun for you--and vice versa.
  • People actually prefer that you buy wedding gifts off their registry.
  • Houseplants and photo albums are a lot of trouble.
  • If you're not failing, you're not trying hard enough.
  • No deposit, no return.

Happiness theories I reject.

  • Flaubert: "To be stupid, and selfish, and to have good health are the three requirements for happiness; though if stupidity is lacking, the others are useless."
  • Vauvenargues: “There are men who are happy without knowing it.”
  • Eric Hoffer: “The search for happiness is one of the chief sources of unhappiness.”
  • Sartre: "Hell is other people."
  • Willa Cather: “One cannot divine nor forecast the conditions that will make happiness; one only stumbles upon them…”
  • Alexander Smith: “We are never happy; we can only remember that we were so once.”
  • John Stuart Mill: “Ask yourself whether you are happy, and you cease to be so.”
  • G.K. Chesterton: “Happiness is a mystery, like religion, and should never be rationalised.”
  • Solon: “Let no man be called happy before his death. Till then, he is not happy, only lucky.”

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I have yet to go wrong with the 'When in doubt, throw it out.' It seems the resiliency of humans is actually able to overcome throwing away that high school pair of jeans :)

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even as you speak, I am in the throes of a real, live, move. . . .

My problem: getting stuff that I don't use to someone who will actually use it. I became disillusioned when I found out how much of the stuff that goes to Goodwill is actually trashed - perfectly good clothes shredded for rags, for example.

I try to remind myself that - even if something is useful and "perfectly good" - something that is excess and that I don't use is no better than trash in my house.

It doesn't always work. . . .

I liked what your last commenter said: It seems the resiliency of humans is actually able to overcome throwing away that high school pair of jeans :)

good one!

If you're concerned about what happens to donations at thrift stores... there is another great way to find a new home for your old stuff: Freecycle it!

Freecycle is an online community where people are encouraged to offload even the oddest of items - just to keep them out of the landfills.

http://www.freecycle.org/

We've posted everything from old deck rails to leftover landscape edging - with takers just about every time.

I just went through a move, and gave an incredible amount away. Some went to Goodwill, some to Freecycle, some to Salvation Army, and some went to the "I sold it on eBay" store (I made almost $700 on stuff that was just sitting around). I found that as I was filling boxes, twenty minutes later I couldn't even really remember what I'd put in some of them.

It's scary how much stuff I had accumulated in 15 years! And, it felt soooo good to get rid of it. I used to be afflicted with the concern about what would happen to the items, but decided that once I've determined I don't need it, it shouldn't matter to me what happens next (short of clogging up a landfill). It made it a lot easier to get rid of things, and I haven't missed one item I got rid of.

I donate a bag of clothes monthy, and I have yet to run out of clothes. My wardrobe is a bottomless well of stuff I never wear. There is a church group by my house that operates its own thrift store. They sell used things for cheap, of course, but they also just plain give things to people in need who don't have the money, which is awesome. I know for a fact they gave a baby bassinet to a young mother gratis. If you don't like Goodwill for one reason or other, check around for local places.

My friend - who moved 3 years worth of stuff in about a dozen boxes - hosts a "swap party" at least twice a year. She goes through her clothes that she doesn't wear (along with books, CDs, etc), we go through what we don't wear, and we all come together to swap! It's amazing what I come home with, and how I still get that "new" feeling from my friend's leftovers! Now if only I can purge as well as she does....

Just knowing you're going to move someday puts a limit on the potential use of a possession. It isn't cost-effective to take most things with you when you move, so you can ask, "Is there a realistic chance that I will use this before the next time I move?" The more honest you are in the decisions you make now, the easier it will be the next time you move.

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Yea! I went through all my pens (I have a pen and paper fetish, I think) and threw away every one of them that didn't work...I am so proud of myself. Thank you for the kick start.....And it is on my agenda to go through all my clothes. Like most people, I find myself washing the same clothes each week with very little variation, so why, why, why, do I have closets full and drawers full of stuff I am not wearing? Ha...and all that I don't wear is newer and in better condition. Guess I just like the feel of old clothes better.

The reason that Goodwill, Salvation Army and other thrift stores often end up shredding clothes (or exporting them in bulk) is that there is a limited after-market for clothes. Things with spots and tears are simply not bought. To raise money, these charities need to operate like businesses, which means putting on display things that they can re-sell. Otherwise they are using floor space (which they have to pay rent for) to basically display people's junk.

I am going to have a baby in a couple of weeks and purged at least 15 boxes of junk from my house. Some went to the women's shelter thrift shop, other things just went to recycling. The baby's room used to be a storage room so we had to dispose of a lot because there just isn't room. It was very freeing to think I won't have to deal with that clutter anymore and I will be able to provide a simpler, more focused life for my baby.

Now I am trying to convince family members to only buy neccessities for the new baby. Books are great but there are only so many toys and doo dads that we actually need.

I think I've taken on cleaning out for a move as a hobby by now. Over the past three years I've moved from the east coast to the west coast and back. On the last move I was determined to get rid of as much as possible. I sold things on craigslist, and gave things away.

To get rid of multiple items I used the "30% rule." Gather all of one item and then get rid of 30%. It's harder than you think!

Now I'm helping my dad get ready for a move. I warned him I'm a pro now, so he'd better be ready to work! :)

I LOVE decluttering tips! (I think I may be creating a new clutter pile at home of clippings with declutter tips!!!!) I love the idea of pretending you are moving to get yourself into the right mind set.

I think Michael above has an excellent point to keep in mind too. If you don't want an article of clothing because it has a stain, no one else will either. Some old clothes are just trash. The Salvation Army is an excellent place to donate good used clothes too!!!

I heard someone say the true spirit of giving is to give something away that is still important to you. Not to knock giving away what you don't use, that is a great endevour as well, but hand over a favorite, relish the difference in how you feel about it.

Boy did I learn from this, boy do I relate to this...boy do I need to actually follow this!! I think we have about 10 stubbie holders in our house but only two of us drink...and the neighbour usually brings his own!

Once in a while I like to place things in a slightly different 'spotlight' that usual,

You would say that you better beat 'Clutter' to be 'Organised', that's what seems to be Logical.

Don't you think?

People who have read my post 'Logic is overrated' will love this....,

(http://hpshappy.blogspot.com/2007/06/logic-is-over-rated.html) ,

Because maybe 'logic' is deceiving you.

Here below I have a link for you where you can find some interesting notions about 'Clutter' from somebody that IS highly Organised but is NOT at all really preocupied with 'Clutter-clearing',(as you can see on a photograph of him sitting at his desk)

You can find it at:

http://www.organisedr.com

All the Best,
To your Happy Inspiration,
HP

It really depends on the person what is the most important to them. But it is important to become aware and then make an informed choice about what is important to you.

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I saw my life coach today - been seeing her for quite a while with the goal of cleaning up my room - and she challenged what was my idea of waste. It is a waste if it is sitting on the bedroom floor and nobody else is using it. It is a waste if it is not fulfilling its purpose.

In my case I don't think anybody has a use for the junk I keep. So it has fulfilled its purpose and now is the time for it to go where it needs to go next.

So I stepped out and threw out that mending that's been hanging around for 5 years. (My kids don't fit into those clothes anymore and they are all worn out anyway or are too hard to fix.) And I threw out 11 years of tax papers too. Ouch!!!(Actually I started shredding them but the shredder kept jamming so I burnt them - sorry environment!!)

And there is a sense of relief even if it it accompanied by pain!

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If you just can't throw it away, get excess "like" things together. coathangers, old flower vases and take them to the cleaners, the flower shop (call first to see if they want these things). If they don't want them, why should you. Also consider the time factor in taking items to new owners. Take the hangers when you are delivering or picking up dry cleaning, don't make an extra trip.

some organizations NEED things and some don't want your old stuff. Call and see if they are taking old clothes, toys, sheets, towels, dishes, etc. before making a delivery. A local spouse abuse shelter in our town "has too much" such stuff, another spouse abuse shelter needs ANYTHING, and also gets matching dollars for your contribution! A big plus for both of you. Pick your donees carefully, or junk it.

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  • To be happier, you need to think about FEELING GOOD, FEELING BAD, and FEELING RIGHT, in an atmosphere of growth. Clunky, but it works.

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What started me thinking.

  • "Whoever is happy will make others happy, too." Mark Twain.
  • “There is no duty we so much underrate as the duty of being happy.” Robert Louis Stevenson
  • "Martha, Martha, thou art careful and troubled about many things: But one thing is needful: and Mary hath chosen that good part, which shall not be taken away from her." Luke 10:41-42
  • “Imaginary evil is romantic and varied; real evil is gloomy, monotonous, barren, boring. Imaginary good is boring; real good is always new, marvelous, intoxicating.” Simone Weil
  • “What a wonderful life I’ve had! I only wish I’d realized it sooner.” Colette
  • “It is easy to be heavy: hard to be light.” G. K. Chesterton
  • “A man’s first care should be to avoid the reproaches of his own heart.” Joseph Addison
  • “For the love of God and my Sisters (so charitable toward me) I take care to appear happy and especially to be so.” St. Therese
  • “Best is good. Better is best.” Lisa Grunwald
  • “All severity that does not tend to increase good, or prevent evil, is idle.” Samuel Johnson
  • “I must do the work that I am best suited for…” Edward Weston daybook
  • “Order is Heaven’s first law.” Alexander Pope
  • “How slight and insignificant is the thing which casts down or restores a mind greedy for praise.” Horace

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