What Started Me Thinking

  • "The best way to cheer yourself is to try to cheer somebody else up." Mark Twain
  • “There is no duty we so much underrate as the duty of being happy.” Robert Louis Stevenson
  • "Martha, Martha, thou art careful and troubled about many things: But one thing is needful: and Mary hath chosen that good part, which shall not be taken away from her." Luke 10:41-42
  • “Imaginary evil is romantic and varied; real evil is gloomy, monotonous, barren, boring. Imaginary good is boring; real good is always new, marvelous, intoxicating.” Simone Weil
  • “What a wonderful life I’ve had! I only wish I’d realized it sooner.” Colette
  • “It is easy to be heavy: hard to be light.” G. K. Chesterton
  • “A man’s first care should be to avoid the reproaches of his own heart.” Joseph Addison
  • “Best is good. Better is best.” Lisa Grunwald
  • “Order is Heaven’s first law.” Alexander Pope

Happiness Theories I Reject

  • Flaubert: "To be stupid, and selfish, and to have good health are the three requirements for happiness; though if stupidity is lacking, the others are useless."
  • Vauvenargues: “There are men who are happy without knowing it.”
  • Eric Hoffer: “The search for happiness is one of the chief sources of unhappiness.”
  • Sartre: "Hell is other people."
  • Willa Cather: “One cannot divine nor forecast the conditions that will make happiness; one only stumbles upon them…”
  • Alexander Smith: “We are never happy; we can only remember that we were so once.”
  • John Stuart Mill: “Ask yourself whether you are happy, and you cease to be so.”

Happiness quotation from Virginia Woolf.

WoolfvaMany scenes have come & gone unwritten, since it is today the 4th Sept, a cold grey blowy day, made memorable by the sight of a kingfisher, & by my sense, waking early, of being again visited by “the spirit of delight.” “Rarely rarely comest thou, spirit of delight.” That was I singing this time last year; & sang so poignantly that I have never forgotten it, or my vision of a fin rising on a wide blank sea. No biographer could possibly guess this important fact about my life in the late summer of 1926: yet biographers pretend they know people.
-- Virginia Woolf, Diaries, September 4, 1927

This quotation is perhaps only glancingly related to the general topic of happiness, but it's very significant to my personal happiness. First, because September 4 is my wedding anniversary, it has special meaning; and also because when I was writing my second book, Forty Ways to Look at Winston Churchill, and thinking constantly about the nature of biography, these lines had enormous influence on me. In fact, I used this quotation, along with my favorite quotation from Winston Churchill, to introduce the book.

It makes me happy to reread that paragraph, and to revisit what I was thinking about then.

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Comments

September 4th is my wedding anniversary as well. On the subject of happiness, well, as I remarked that evening: "Happiness? Happiness is having a wife who justifies buying you three bottles of high-end liquor for your fourth anniversary on the grounds that they have flowers on the label and a nice bouquet, and then follows that up by enthusiastically endorsing the idea of going to Buffalo Wild Wings for an NFL Opening Night-themed anniversary dinner."

Great quote. I just bought her diaries and I'm starting to read them now.

didn'she kill herself in the end? that all these "rare visits from the spirit of delight" ultimately couldn't save her from her inevitable?

Hmmm dunno wat kind of co-incidence this is, but on the 4th of Sept (it's the 10th of September that i've discovered your page) , I wrote a piece on my blog, wondering if people like Virginia Woolf, Elizabeth Wurtzel, Anna Karenina (even though she's ficticious, i think many people are like her) could escape their eventual suicide (or suicide attempts)

http://mathialee.spaces.live.com/blog/cns!78A6E3198A7C8D0D!849.entry

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