What Started Me Thinking

  • "Whoever is happy will make others happy, too." Mark Twain.
  • “There is no duty we so much underrate as the duty of being happy.” Robert Louis Stevenson
  • "Martha, Martha, thou art careful and troubled about many things: But one thing is needful: and Mary hath chosen that good part, which shall not be taken away from her." Luke 10:41-42
  • “Imaginary evil is romantic and varied; real evil is gloomy, monotonous, barren, boring. Imaginary good is boring; real good is always new, marvelous, intoxicating.” Simone Weil
  • “What a wonderful life I’ve had! I only wish I’d realized it sooner.” Colette
  • “It is easy to be heavy: hard to be light.” G. K. Chesterton
  • “A man’s first care should be to avoid the reproaches of his own heart.” Joseph Addison
  • “Best is good. Better is best.” Lisa Grunwald
  • “Order is Heaven’s first law.” Alexander Pope

Happiness Theories I Reject

  • Flaubert: "To be stupid, and selfish, and to have good health are the three requirements for happiness; though if stupidity is lacking, the others are useless."
  • Vauvenargues: “There are men who are happy without knowing it.”
  • Eric Hoffer: “The search for happiness is one of the chief sources of unhappiness.”
  • Sartre: "Hell is other people."
  • Willa Cather: “One cannot divine nor forecast the conditions that will make happiness; one only stumbles upon them…”
  • Alexander Smith: “We are never happy; we can only remember that we were so once.”
  • John Stuart Mill: “Ask yourself whether you are happy, and you cease to be so.”

Happiness quotation from Jane Austen.

AustenFrom the novel Emma:

“Miss Bates…had never boasted either beauty or cleverness. Her youth had passed without distinction, and her middle of life was devoted to the care of a failing mother, and the endeavour to make a small income go as far as possible. And yet she was a happy woman, and a woman whom no one named without good-will. It was her own universal goodwill and contented temper which worked such wonders. She loved every body, was interested in every body’s happiness and quick-sighted to every body’s merits; thought herself a most fortunate creature, and surrounded with blessings in such an excellent mother and so many good neighbours and friends, and a home that wanted for nothing. The simplicity and cheerfulness of her nature, her contented and grateful spirit, were a recommendation to every body and a mine of felicity to herself.” --Jane Austen

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Comments

Awesome quote. When a person cares about other people their own happiness seems to follow.

When I was younger I was too caught up in what would make me happy. When I started letting go of this outlook and looking for other people's happiness that's when my happiness blossomed.

I love this book! Miss Bates is such a wonderful character and I love that quote/description.

I really loved your 12 Commandments. Very touching and straight forward. It gave me power to forget the past, enjoyed life and so on. Hope you finished your amazing project

Absolutely NOTHING makes me happier than Jane Austen's novels.

As a young person I wasn't what you called a "reader". English was one of my worse subjects and I am slow reader.

I have slowly become what you would call a "reader". I am grateful and happy to be a "reader". I so needed to expand my world, receive inspiration and share my new found knowledge with others.

Bless authors, writers, bloggers who share. I read The Last Lecture. Thankful that Randy Pausch shared his happiness with us.

You know, though I have read Emma many times, it has never occurred to me that Miss Bates is actually living a truly happy life! I have always viewed her through Emma's eyes as slightly ridiculous, but through her own eyes, Miss Bates is a really happy, lucky and grateful individual.

What a great quote! I've just found your blog through Real Simple. Yay! :)

Remember, Miss Bates was never appreciated by the other characters. She was frequently seen as boring. I don't think universal "niceness" is a condition for happiness. In fact, often I think being nice to everyone diminishes happiness.

Haven't read that beautiful JA quote in years! Awesome project, btw!

Delighted to find your blog and absolutely love the quote. I've linked to your blog on Happy By Nature...I like to share the good stuff!

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