What Started Me Thinking

  • "The best way to cheer yourself is to try to cheer somebody else up." Mark Twain
  • “There is no duty we so much underrate as the duty of being happy.” Robert Louis Stevenson
  • "Martha, Martha, thou art careful and troubled about many things: But one thing is needful: and Mary hath chosen that good part, which shall not be taken away from her." Luke 10:41-42
  • “Imaginary evil is romantic and varied; real evil is gloomy, monotonous, barren, boring. Imaginary good is boring; real good is always new, marvelous, intoxicating.” Simone Weil
  • “What a wonderful life I’ve had! I only wish I’d realized it sooner.” Colette
  • “It is easy to be heavy: hard to be light.” G. K. Chesterton
  • “A man’s first care should be to avoid the reproaches of his own heart.” Joseph Addison
  • “Best is good. Better is best.” Lisa Grunwald
  • “Order is Heaven’s first law.” Alexander Pope

Happiness Theories I Reject

  • Flaubert: "To be stupid, and selfish, and to have good health are the three requirements for happiness; though if stupidity is lacking, the others are useless."
  • Vauvenargues: “There are men who are happy without knowing it.”
  • Eric Hoffer: “The search for happiness is one of the chief sources of unhappiness.”
  • Sartre: "Hell is other people."
  • Willa Cather: “One cannot divine nor forecast the conditions that will make happiness; one only stumbles upon them…”
  • Alexander Smith: “We are never happy; we can only remember that we were so once.”
  • John Stuart Mill: “Ask yourself whether you are happy, and you cease to be so.”

The exquisite happiness of having an original thought.

EnergyI was walking down the street and thinking about the novel I finished last night, Marilynne Robinson’s Home. Something tugged at my mind; the book reminded of something else I’d read, but I couldn’t think what it was.

Suddenly it hit me, and the shock of recognition was so great that I stopped dead in my tracks (to the great annoyance of the woman who ran into me from behind). Of course. Flannery O’Connor’s Wise Blood. How had I not seen it before? Wise Blood is one of my very favorite novels.

My mind raced. Yes! It was the same profound issue, being tackled through a different story, but with so many parallels. What did I make of the very different endings? What was the effect of the dark humor in O’Connor’s novel, completely absent in Robinson’s? The much greater realism of Robinson’s? The significance of the surface plot, secondary plot, and other characters? Etc., etc., etc. I practically ran home so I could re-read O’Connor’s Author’s Note.

Then I turned to my “Quotations2006+” document, where I keep my favorite quotations from 2006 and after. (I’m keeping up with my resolution to Take notes without a purpose.) O’Connor’s observation in a letter threw a whole new light on the way I’d understood the ending of Home:

“Part of the difficulty of all this is that you write for an audience who doesn’t know what grace is and don’t recognize it when they see it. All my stories are about the action of grace on a character who is not very willing to support it, but most people think of these stories as hard, hopeless, brutal, etc.”

Yes, yes, yes. Now it seems so obvious that I wonder if a reviewer of the much-reviewed Home has written about these parallels. I should look on Google to see if I can find anything.

Surely Robinson has read Wise Blood; O’Connor seems like just her kind of novelist, and the echoes seem so clear – and yet O’Connor herself had said, “I can discover a good many possible sources myself for Wise Blood but I am often embarrassed to find that I read the sources after I had written the book.”

And there’s no accounting for tastes. I would have predicted that O’Connor would have been utterly devoted to my beloved St. Therese of Lisieux, since their outlook seems so similar and also idiosyncratic in the same way, but from what I can tell, O’Connor never looked beyond the kittens, flowers, and ribbons to the heavenly “violence” of Therese (“From the days of John the Baptist until now, the kingdom of heaven suffereth violence, and the violent bear it away"). Which, strangely, no one ever much talks about in any study of Therese that I've been able to find. Okay, now I’m off in my own universe of references and making no sense to anyone else…

Ah, there really is no greater joy than having a thought. Too bad it’s so hard.

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Comments

Great post, Gretchen! I'm just re-reading Gilead and have Home on the top of the stack to read next. And just this week I'd pulled O'Connor's short stories off the shelf to do some re-reading. Your quote from her about the action of grace on a character will focus my reading of Home.

Mary

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