What Started Me Thinking

  • "The best way to cheer yourself is to try to cheer somebody else up." Mark Twain
  • “There is no duty we so much underrate as the duty of being happy.” Robert Louis Stevenson
  • "Martha, Martha, thou art careful and troubled about many things: But one thing is needful: and Mary hath chosen that good part, which shall not be taken away from her." Luke 10:41-42
  • “Imaginary evil is romantic and varied; real evil is gloomy, monotonous, barren, boring. Imaginary good is boring; real good is always new, marvelous, intoxicating.” Simone Weil
  • “What a wonderful life I’ve had! I only wish I’d realized it sooner.” Colette
  • “It is easy to be heavy: hard to be light.” G. K. Chesterton
  • “A man’s first care should be to avoid the reproaches of his own heart.” Joseph Addison
  • “Best is good. Better is best.” Lisa Grunwald
  • “Order is Heaven’s first law.” Alexander Pope

Happiness Theories I Reject

  • Flaubert: "To be stupid, and selfish, and to have good health are the three requirements for happiness; though if stupidity is lacking, the others are useless."
  • Vauvenargues: “There are men who are happy without knowing it.”
  • Eric Hoffer: “The search for happiness is one of the chief sources of unhappiness.”
  • Sartre: "Hell is other people."
  • Willa Cather: “One cannot divine nor forecast the conditions that will make happiness; one only stumbles upon them…”
  • Alexander Smith: “We are never happy; we can only remember that we were so once.”
  • John Stuart Mill: “Ask yourself whether you are happy, and you cease to be so.”

Post-election thoughts: John Kennedy and Barack Obama.

Jfk3My last book was a biography of John F. Kennedy, Forty Ways to Look at JFK, and one of the chief reasons that I wanted to write that book was that I wanted to figure out for myself: what the heck was it about JFK? What was the secret of his charisma? When I started the book, I wasn’t a particular fan of JFK, so I wanted to understand what element in him so many other people responded to.

It was a joy to write that book and to think about that question -- which is a whole other story. But as I got further and further into my research, I realized that one phrase that Kennedy used – which no one really talks about much – was the thing that struck me most. “Law alone cannot make men see right.” The election last night reminded me of this.

JFK spoke this line during a TV speech in 1963. In June, a pair of black students prepared to enroll at the University of Alabama. Governor George Wallace tried to block the court-ordered desegregation, but Kennedy federalized the state’s National Guard and forced Wallace to yield. After watching a replay of Wallace’s defiance, Kennedy announced, “I want to go on television tonight,” and he, Bobby Kennedy, and Ted Sorensen rushed to prepare his remarks in the few hours before he went on the air.

He spoke for eighteen minutes – much of it improvised from an unfinished text. You can watch the television footage and read the transcript here.

Here’s my favorite part:

This is not a sectional issue. Difficulties over segregation and discrimination exist in every city, in every State of the Union, producing in many cities a rising tide of discontent that threatens the public safety. Nor is this a partisan issue. In a time of domestic crisis men of good will and generosity should be able to unite regardless of party or politics. This is not even a legal or legislative issue alone. It is better to settle these matters in the courts than on the streets, and new laws are needed at every level, but law alone cannot make men see right. We are confronted primarily with a moral issue. It is as old as the Scriptures and is as clear as the American Constitution.

Law alone cannot make men see right. What does permit us to see right? I ask myself this question all the time.

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Interested in starting your own Happiness Project? If you’d like to take a look at my Resolutions Chart, for inspiration, just email me at grubin, then the “at” sign, then gretchenrubin dot com. No need to write anything more than “Resolutions Chart” in the subject line.


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