Join or Start a Group -- a Happiness-Project Group.

One of the happiness-project resolutions that I’ve found to be most effective – and also the most fun – is to Join or start a group. Since I started my happiness project, I’ve joined or started seven groups, each of which has added dramatically to my happiness.

Some people are interested in starting or joining a group for people doing happiness projects – to my astonishment, more than 2,000 people have sent for the starter-kit for people launching such a group. (Click here if you'd like to sign up for a kit yourself.)

I’m wildly interested in what these groups are doing, so am thrilled whenever I hear news. There are groups forming in cities like Dallas/Fort Worth, Boston, Gainesville -- even Singapore!

Nicole’s group, in Enid, Oklahoma, has more than forty members (incredible). Nicole suggested that everyone begin by deciding on three or four resolutions, and she offered several great suggestions about making an effective resolution (start small; keep it concrete; hold yourself accountable by keeping a chart, whether online at the Happiness Project Toolbox or on paper), and she offered her own resolutions as an example:

1. Meditate for at least 10 minutes each day
2. Exercise at least twice per week
3. Choose my arguments more wisely
4. Take more notes so I do not forget things so easily

Nicole made another excellent point to the Enid group, which I echo in different words in my Secrets of Adulthood. She reminded everyone, “Remember, you’ll only get out of this what you’re willing to put in!” Very true. (My version is “No deposit, no return.”)

Michael’s group in L.A. has an unexpected geographic challenge: thirty-two people are interested in joining the group, and they’re spread all across the vast L.A. area. To keep the drive easier for people, Michael has suggested that they break into two groups, to keep meeting as convenient as possible. Very smart! Convenience matters a lot! However, having a committed leader matters a lot, too, so I hope someone steps forward to lead the new, second group if it forms.

Dani is launching a group in the Washington, D.C. area. If you’re interested in joining, email her at positivepresent@gmail.com. Her excellent blog is Positively Present.

Group leaders, please do join the Facebook Discussion Page for group leaders. From time to time, I’d like able to contact you directly – for instance, I’m sending you all a little surprise in the mail this week – and if you’re on that Page, I’ll be able to find you.

What about the tri-state area? (NY, CT, NJ) I live in New York City and would love to see a happiness-project group form in my own backyard. If you’ve started one, let me know! Maybe I can come to the kick-off meeting.

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I was interested to see this Marriage Calculator at Divorce360. My result? "People with similar backgrounds who are already divorced: 14%. People with similar backgrounds who will be divorced over the next five years: 3%." Apparently that puts me at average risk for divorce.

Comments

[Alexis Grant]

I'd love to join one! I'm in upstate NY... Albany... Gotta read more about this on your site.

[Erika, Gainesville FL]

Hi! I'm a part of the group here in Gainesville, Florida.

We meet every other week and have a fairly small group, but it's awesome. We've only had 3 meetings so far but we're spreading the word! I cannot recommend it highly enough.

Our group is so positive and so like-minded, I couldn't be any more HAPPY with it. We share a lot and everyone offers different but incredibly encouraging and helpful perspectives. We all have resolutions that we’ve made and are still working on organizing them. Almost all of us have started thinking about our commandments, but that’s definitely something that comes with time. At meetings, we touch base on how everyone is doing with our resolutions and we also discuss different aspects and themes of the Happiness Project.

If you're in or near the area, find us on Facebook under Gainesville Happiness Project or e-mail at gainesvillehappinessproject@gmail.com. Let us know how you found the group and introduce yourself! :)

Thanks Gretchen, and thanks Wendi and Amy for starting our local group!

[Gretchen Rubin]

Excellent! great to hear from Gainesville! that is so exciting.

hey Alexis in Albany -- start one there! Albany needs one.

[Sophie]

Mmmh, anyone in London?!

[Positively Present]

Gretchen, thanks for mentioning Positively Present! I'm looking forward to working on a DC group and I'm excited to hear more about what the other groups are doing. :) Thanks for starting all of this. Your site has been such an inspiration to me and it's so great that I get to, in some small way, be a part of The Happiness Project!

[Gretchen Rubin]

London, yes, excellent!

[Cathy]

How about Italy?

[Margaret]

Is anyone in Manchester (England that is) interested in a Happiness Project Group?

[brainygirl]

I'd love to start a group in NYC, but one of my obstacles to happiness is that I constantly overcommit myself and then feel trapped! Instead, I'm starting a blog (my 5th, maybe this one will stick!!) about happiness, called Fit for Love. The concept: two friends who lost touch for 15 years reconnect; one desperately seeking love (me) the other, desperately needing to lose weight (my friend) try to help each other through the process and write about it along the way! We haven't posted yet, but I'll let you know...
www.fitforlove.blogspot.com

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Can you please tell me how to start a happiness project?

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[Ike Nelson]

I'd like to start one in the Littleton, CO area unless there's already one! Ho do I find out?

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